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There’s a saying out there that goes something like this: “Raising kids isn’t for wimps.” This really is a true statement, but especially true for those trying to raise teenagers. Many parents feel that raising a teenager is like being thrown into the middle of a war. They feel like they are constantly in the middle of combat with no end in sight. This is one of the reasons why so many parents give up and let their teens do what they want. However, there are many other parents out there who make it a point to stay involved – with or without their teenager’s approval.

The truth is that it is much easier to move aside and let your teenager do as she pleases. However, the advantages of staying involved in your teen’s life far outweigh the negatives. This is especially true when you look at the big picture – the one that stretches beyond high school and college.


The teenage years are especially hard on kids. This is the time in their lives when everything is beginning to change. Not only are they dealing with puberty, but they also begin to deal with peer pressure on a whole new level. Many parents don’t realize how tough high school can be nowadays and the extent of peer pressure. Times have changed since parents were in school and so has the pressure kids are under by their friends.

Many teens experience peer pressure to get involved in things such as drugs, alcohol, sex, gangs, vandalism and much more. When parents aren’t involved and their teens don’t have anyone they feel they can turn to, they are more likely to give in to the pressure from peers. However, this risk decreases when teens feel they have supportive parents at home with whom they can talk to.

There are several things parents can do to be involved in their teen’s life in addition to being available to talk. Many times with teenagers, they won’t come to their parents willingly, but need to be coaxed a little. So, instead of waiting for their child to come to them, parents need to start conversations with their teens in the evening. Simple questions like, “How was your day?” or “You seem quiet. Is everything okay?” can get conversations going. When a teenager feels like her parents care about what is going on in her life, she is going to be more willing to open up and share her problems when she needs to.

In addition to talking, there are other things parents can do to be involved. Many parents set curfews, but don’t bother asking where their teenagers are going or what they’re doing when they go out. There is nothing wrong with asking your teen what her plans are for the evening. When parents ask questions, it shows their teen that they are interested and that they do care.

Another thing parents can do to get involved is to take an interest in the things their teens are interested in. For example, if she plays volleyball, take time off work to go and watch her play. Something else parents can do is take an interest in their teen’s friends and who she’s dating. Get to know them. Parents will be surprised at the things they learn when they get to know their teenager’s friends. It is important for parents to get involved in their child’s life, especially when they are teenagers. This will create a bond that will last through high school, college and into adulthood. So, get involved!