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Signs of Teenage Depression

By: Aurelia Category: Family, Parenting A Teen, Teen Emotional Health

Signs of teenage depression: can you spot them? It is not easy; yet with heightened senses and an open mind, you can see right through your teenager’s heart.

Your teenager is an individual in his own right

Your baby is now grownup; yet not quite. Most of the times your teenage son or daughter disagrees with you. He or she is not anymore allowed to play and act like a child but he or she isn’t allowed yet to do many of the things that are said to be for adults only. Add this fact to peer pressure and hormones and you’ve got a perfect recipe for teenage depression.

Being a teen is not easy, you’ve been there and done the “deeds” that now make you shake your head at the thought. Since you’ve passed the teenage stage uneventfully, you may think that your son or daughter would also do so and react to adversities in the same way as you do. Not quite.

Your teenage son or daughter is a different individual with a temperament that although it may resemble yours, does not make him or her just like you altogether. This means that he or she may react and decide differently with the same stressors that you have faced.

Spotting signs of teenage depression

Below are some actions or behaviors of a teenager that you may think of as just sulkiness normal to any teen, but may be telltale signs of teenage depression:

1. Sudden disregard for appearance or personal hygiene.

When a teenager suddenly looks shabby, doesn’t want to take a shower even if his hair is already sticking to his head, and wears used and soiled clothes for school, it is one of the signs of teenage depression.

It is not that your teenage son or daughter prefers to look shabby; he is not anymore aware of his looks because his thoughts are preoccupied with depressing thoughts and personal hygiene and appearance become the least of his worries.

When this happens too suddenly, it is one of the signs of teenage depression. However, if this happens just once in a while and your teenage son or daughter still dresses up for school, he is just a normal teenager who gets lazy at times.

2. Sudden drop in grades.

Lackluster performance at school is one of the signs of a teenage depression especially if the trend was from up to down in a matter of weeks or a few months. This means that your teenage son or daughter is facing a difficult time, whether at home or at school, and this matter should be discussed with him or her. During a dialogue, don’t go on the offensive since this will push your child away from you. Talk to your teenage son or daughter as though he is an adult and let him do more of the talking.

3. Change in appetite.

A teenager who goes into eating spree or suddenly went anorexic has some deep problems that aren’t surfacing yet. If you notice change in appetite, observe first your teenage son or daughter’s behavior and take the time to talk to him or her about the things that bother him or her.

If he declines, give him the space he needs and leave him alone for a few days. If nothing has changed after a few days, talk to him again and never accept a “no” answer for a dialogue. Ask in a kind way what’s bothering his mind and tell him that no matter what, you are always there to assist him.

4. Deviant or destructive behavior.

If a teenager becomes too destructive to himself and to people around him, it doesn’t mean that he is just a rebellious teenager. This is one of the signs of teenage depression and you should extend a hand for guidance and comfort. Don’t be on the offensive when he sulks. Nor should you be on the defensive when he spites you.

5. Restless or agitated or sluggish.

A depressed teenager may be restless, can not keep himself in one place or is sluggish and prefers to stay home, sleep all day, eat a lot and do nothing. These are signs of teenage depression; and when you see these signs, better talk things out with your teenage son or daughter to understand his wants and needs.

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Parenting Teenagers: Signs of Depression in Teens

By: Mary Lutz Category: Parenting A Teen, Teen Emotional Health

There are so many things to worry about when you are parenting teenagers that it can seem overwhelming. Not only do you have your own responsibilities that you have to maintain, but you’ve got to give your teen the attention he or she needs, as well. One of the major issues that many teens are facing in this day and age is depression.  It is very imporantant for parents and school authorities to look out for signs of depression in teens and to step in as early as possible. 

Many adults find this strange because they see the teen years as those years when life “is great.” After all, what do teens have to really worry about? All they need to do is manage to go to school and complete their homework, maintain a part-time job and have fun with their friends, right? This is partially true, but you have to remember that as an adult, you’ve already live through your teen years.

Teens are going through this time in their lives for the first (and only) time, meaning they don’t have the hindsight that you do. Therefore, the things that you know are little don’t seem little to them. Since teens are in the midst of it all, they aren’t able to take a step back and look at their situation like we, as adults, are. Everything is a big deal to them because this is “life” as they know it.

Plus, teens are going through a completely different world than we did at their age. They are having to deal with peers who are not only into drinking and drugs, but also those who may be suicidal or consider bringing a gun to school, as well as, all the normal stressors involved with keeping good grades and maintaining friendships. It’s no wonder teen depression is becoming more and more common. Therefore, if you are currently parenting teenagers, you need to be aware of the signs of depression in teens.

Signs of Depression In Teens

Loss of Appetite – Many teens who are suffering from depression will lose their desire to eat. This can result in substantial weight loss and health problems if left untreated.

Forgetfulness – At first, you may think your teen is just being irresponsible. However, if he is depressed a number of things can cause forgetfulness. Your teen may be having a hard time concentrating, experiencing short-term memory loss or dealing with constant anxiety. All of this will work together and cause your teen to appear to be forgetful.

Change in Sleeping Patterns – Many teens who go through depression don’t sleep at night like they should be. While you may not notice that your teen isn’t sleeping at night, because you are sleeping, you will probably notice that your teen is sleeping more during the day. If this happens on a daily basis for a week or more, you should be concerned.

Health Issues – Depression affects every individual different, especially teens. Some teens who are depressed may experience chronic back or stomach pain. They may also complain of constant headaches or being overly tired.

Drop in Grades – Due to the fact that depression can cause a lack of concentration, fatigue, health complications and more, it’s not uncommon for teens with depression to let their grades drop rapidly. When you’re parenting teenagers who normally have good grades, this sudden change will probably be your first indication that something is wrong.

Withdrawal – Depressed teens often withdrawal from family, friends and activities that they once enjoyed doing. This also includes withdrawing from electronic communications such as phone calls, text message and online messaging.

Parenting teenagers is a difficult job, and there is a lot involved in raising happy, healthy children. If you notice any of the above signs of depression in teens, you need to address the problem immediately. Don’t wait for it to get worse,

Parenting Teenagers with Depression

By: Mary Lutz Category: Parenting A Teen, Teen Emotional Health

There probably isn’t a mother, or parent, in the world who ever entertained the thought that they may one day be parenting teenagers with depression. In fact, most expecting parents envision warm sunny days where their little ones are outside playing with big grins on their faces. Then, for the teen years, most parents think about their kids playing sports, hanging out with friends and going out on dates on the weekends. We have these pictures in our minds of how life will be with kids before we have them because these are the normal experience for children to go through. However, there are many teens and adolescents who do not have the average, normal life that other kids their age do.

Depression affects an average of 10% of teens in the world today. While medical professionals do know that teen depression can be triggered by the hormonal activity going on within the teen, they can’t pinpoint exactly what causes this problem. All teens go through a stage where they aren’t predictable and their moods are easily influenced, but teens suffering from depression or bipolar disorders take these “moods” to a different level. They aren’t able to control their moods and can easily become enraged, severely depressed and withdrawn, suicidal, or worse when the condition is left untreated.

If you are parenting teenagers with depression there are several things that you must do. First of all, you have to get your teens the professional help they need. In some circumstances, medications are needed to regulate your teen’s depression. If medication is prescribed, you need to make sure that your teens are taking it when they are supposed to. It’s best not to take their word for it, but to actually see them taking it. Sometimes teens like to self-regulate their medications. They think that because they’ve been fine for several months that there isn’t a need to take their medicine any longer. Therefore, it’s best to watch them take the medication.

Secondly, you need to make sure that your teens are getting the amount of sleep they need every day. Depression has been shown to get worse when people, especially teens, aren’t getting the amounts of sleep they need. Another known depressant is alcohol. Many teens like to go out with their friends and experiment with alcohol, but this can be detrimental to your teen’s health. This is also true with drugs. Therefore, you will need to monitor your teens more closely to better ensure that they aren’t routinely where these substances are.

Lastly, you will most likely find it helpful to find someone to talk to about the things you are going through as a parent. You may need to speak to a counselor or join a support group of parents who are raising teens with similar problems. Having someone to talk to is necessary as you have a lot going on and carry a lot of stress…your health and state of mind is just as important as your teen’s – don’t forget that!

Parenting teenagers with severe depression is much more difficult than being a parent to a teen who doesn’t suffer from this disorder. However, it’s important that you understand there are many more out there who are in the same situation as you. Additionally, there are many who have been in your position and have succeeded in raising their depressive children into healthy adults. It takes a lot of hard work , dedication and love on your part, but after all, isn’t that what parenthood is all about?

Coping with Depression in Your Teen

By: Aurelia Category: Parenting A Teen, Teen Emotional Health

It’s easy to forget how dramatic and difficult it can be to be young. As we get older, we envy the energy and attitude of youth, missing the days when we could stay up late and still go 100 miles an hour the next day. We tend to gloss over the way it really was…the tension, the pressure, the demands, the frustration of being not quite a grown up. Teens are under a tremendous amount of pressure from home, school, friends, coaches, and even themselves. This pressure can often lead to teen depression.

If you are a parent coping with teen depression, there are things you can do to help your teen cope. Take a look at your teen’s schedule; does he or she have too many obligations? Are your teen’s nights and weekends filled with practices and games and performances and other things that keep them from having regular meals, homework time, and family time? Teen depression can often be caused by feeling overwhelmed and out of control.’

If your teen is too busy, teach him or her to take time to relax. Encourage balance through prioritizing. Help them choose one or two activities that are truly important to them and help them break away from doing more than they need to. Try to make family time where all of you can sit together and share a meal and talk. Talking and having a comfortable and safe home environment can reduce teen depression and help your teen recover.

When your son or daughter is suffering from teen depression, he or she may lash out in anger. Your teen may behave differently, have difficulty eating or sleeping, or become withdrawn. You may see more emotional outbursts or an inability to cope with the slightest change to routine or schedule. When teen depression escalates out of control, it can cause your teen to feel suicidal or become physically ill.

Signs of teen depression include:

• Ongoing sadness, anxiety, or feelings of emptiness
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Changes in appetite
• Listlessness or unwillingness to engage in previously enjoyed activities
• Irritability
• Digestion problems
• Fatigue, restlessness, hopelessness
• Difficulty making decisions
• Thoughts of suicide

Often, depression can be treated with medication. Be cautious, however, because many depression medications that work well in adults can trigger suicidal thoughts in teens. Counseling and therapy may help your teen and you can avoid medications. If your teen does have to take medication for depression, be sure you talk to them about the side effects and monitor their behavior closely.

Before teen depression takes a firm hold, seek help for your teen. If scaling back on obligations and being there for your teen aren’t enough to help, enlist the aid of a mental health professional. Don’t dismiss the possibility that your teen is coping with something more serious. Depression can be genetic, but it can also be caused by devastating experiences like date rape, bullying, or academic difficulties.

If you are facing an urgent situation, please call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) in the U.S. or 1-800-448-3000 in Canada.

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Adolescent Depression

By: Aurelia Category: Teen Emotional Health

Depression in adolescents is a disorder which occurs due to persistent sadness, loss of interest, loss of self worth and discouragement. Depression is normally a temporary reaction towards situations of stress. Adolescent Depression is a normal part of the maturation process of adolescents. It is even induced due to production of sex hormones. Adolescent females are depressed twice more than adolescent boys according to a study.

Adolescent behavior is normally marked with good and bad moods. The transition from a good mood to bad mood and vice-versa, can take minutes, hours and even days. That is the reason why true adolescent depression is very difficult to find out. Adolescent depression can be caused due to bad school performance, break up with boyfriend or girlfriend, and failing relations with friends and family. These causes can lead to persistent depression. Other serious causes are chronic illness, obesity, child abuse, stressful lifestyle, poor social skills, unstable care giving and depression in family history.

Symptoms of depression in adolescents are eating disorders, weight change, irritable mood, excessive sleeping in daytime, excessive temper, criminal behavior, memory loss, fatigue, self preoccupation, sadness, difficulty in concentrating, worthlessness feelings, loss of interest, self hatred, obsession with death and thought & attempts of suicides. When these symptoms are being noticed for more than two weeks, it is important to get treatment for the adolescent. Depression not only affects interpersonal relationships, but school performance as well. Depressed adolescents are more prone to take onto drugs and alcohol as an attempt to overcome their depression. Such problems require intensive treatment.

The doctor will take blood test and perform physical examination to determine the cause of depression. The adolescent can also be tested for substance abuse such as smoking, heavy alcohol consumption, marijuana smoking, and usage of other drugs. After the physical examination, psychiatric evaluation is also done to understand the cause of sadness, loss of interest and irritability. Adolescent depression can also lead to the development of other psychiatric disorders such as schizophrenia, mania and anxiety. It is also important to determine whether the adolescent poses a risk for himself/herself and others. Family and school personnel can provide valuable information about the adolescent to the doctor.

Treatment for adolescent depression is similar to the treatment of depression for adults. Along with the treatment, the adolescent are given antidepressant medication and psychotherapy. Antidepressant medications include tricyclics, Prozac, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors or SSRI. Some of the medicines increase the risk, so it is a good idea that parents discuss the possible risks with the doctor. Only some of the antidepressant medications are meant for children and adolescents. Adolescents with severe depression need to be hospitalized as they are more prone to kill themselves.

Family and school support is necessary to tackle the depression of the adolescent. Parents can get their children admitted in emotional growth schools, boot camps or wilderness programs, to solve the behavioral problems. These programs consist of non medical staff and confrontational therapies. But care must be taken as some of the programs can in turn harm children who are depressed and sensitive. Adolescents, who get caught due to criminal offense, should be taken special care of by their parents. It is best that the child face the consequences and learn a lesson from it. Depressed adolescents respond well to treatment if they are treated comprehensively and early. More than half of the adults are known to have depression when they were in their teens.

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