Many parents don’t realize how important it is to teach your child that dating and sex do not go hand in hand.  Many teens just assume that sex is a normal part of dating.  And why wouldn’t they?  Magazines, movies, television, and their friends all give them this message on a regular basis.  Don’t just assume your child knows the difference; tell them as often as you can.

Make sure to teach your children from an early age the difference between dating and sex.  Stress it often.  Help your teen understand that dating is about getting to know the other person emotionally, not just physically. 

Suggest other things to do with someone rather than have sex.  It may seem silly, but many times sex comes up as an option because teens are bored and have nothing else to do or think about.  Suggest fun date ideas to your child.  If they stay busy enough, they’ll probably end up having to say no less.  

Many people teach their children different ways to say no to sex.  They come up with excuses or clever quips.  The problem is: an excuse only works once.  If your teen just brushes off the issue without making their opinions clear, they will face the same problem over and over again.  Teach your child to say no sternly and clearly.  While they may want to give reasons, but they shouldn’t have to.  No should be enough. 

Even if your child has already had sex, don’t let up on teaching them to say no.  Many teens think once you’ve had sex with someone, you can’t refuse to do it again.  Let them know that they can refuse sex if they feel uncomfortable and for any other reason.  You should also stress that having sex is always important and special, not just their first time. 

While it’s good to teach abstinence, you should also make your child aware of safe sex practices.  You can’t always stop your children from having sex (no matter how much you want to), but you can help them be safer about it.

No matter how much you want to, you can’t completely control whether your child has sex, but you can teach them how to stand up for themselves and make good choices. 

Did you know that statistics show that every hour, 55 teenagers give birth in the United States. 

Talking to your teens about sex and pregnancy is very important.  Don’t think for one minute that just because the look down at their feet or perhaps roll their eyes that they aren’t listening to you because they truly are.

Here is a short article on teen pregnancy prevention that may be of some help to you => http://www.parentingmyteen.com/teen_pregnancy_prevention.htm

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There are many parents that are dealing with out of control teens.

When I coach parents on the topic of out of control teens, the first thing I suggest to them is to be sure that they become aware of all of their options and I encourage them to get outside help for the teen if the teen is struggling with anger and/or addiction problems.

Many family that are struggling with a teen that is out of control report to me that it is tearing apart the family and the marriage, and basically take over your life. It’s no fun for your teen either!

Here is an eye-opening article all about out of control teen: http://www.parentingmyteen.com/parenting-teens-articles/out_of_control_teens.htm feel free to pass this article on to your friends!
 
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