While many of us have a lot of positive memories from our high school days, there are many others that have not-so-good memories from high school. The fact is that things haven’t changed over the years – every high school still has its bullies. However, the type of bullying has changed drastically, which means parents also need to change with the times as well. It use to be that parents would blow off bullying and say things like, “that’s just part of life” or “it’ll make a man out of you.” However, after considering the extent that teens are going to with bullying, parents need to be involved with their child enough so that they can help him or her if they are a victim of bullying.
High school is rough, but especially so if your teen is the victim of bullying. It is important that parents tread carefully on this issue because sometimes it can be worse if a parent intervenes too much or prematurely. So, if your teen is being bullied, then the first thing you should do is talk to your teen about it to determine how bad the bullying is. If it isn’t anything serious, a parent can talk to their child about ignoring the remarks being made by the bully. A lot of times, bullies are trying to get a response out of the person they are picking on and if they don’t get a response they may stop.
It is important to realize that not all bullying will simply subside if the victim ignores the behavior. In fact, sometimes this can intensify the situation. Therefore, parents need to talk to their teen and let them know that if the bullying ever gets physical they need to let a teacher or administrator know immediately. If your teen won’t talk to someone about the situation, then you may have to intervene – and that’s okay too.
Some people recommend contacting the bully’s parents, but this is a very touchy thing as it can make the situation worse. There are a lot of bullies that are completely out-of-control and their parents are helpless. Therefore, it may be more beneficial to bypass the bully’s parent’s altogether and go straight to the school officials.
You need to make sure your teen’s teachers are aware of the situation so they can monitor it. If the school system doesn’t do anything about the problem, then it may be necessary to contact the police. Hopefully, it doesn’t come to this but you need to be prepared just in case. Many parents don’t want to intervene because they don’t want the situation getting worse, but sometimes it is necessary. Just remember that your teen’s well-being and safety is the most important thing.
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