What to do if you Suspect your Teen is Taking Drugs
All parents want to keep their kids safe, but with all the dangers in today’s world that’s getting harder to do. A big concern for many parents is drugs. While it’s best to stop your child from doing drugs before they start, there are things you can do if you suspect a problem.
If you suspect your teen is doing drugs, talk to them. And I mean, just talk; no yelling, screaming, or accusations. Prepare what you’re going to say ahead of time so you don’t say something you didn’t intend to. Tell them you suspect they’re taking drugs and cite your reasoning. Give specific, documented examples of behavioral changes. Explain that you’re just trying to help them, but if they don’t tell you what’s going on with them, you’re going to have to take further steps. But be careful, what you perceive as drug use could just be caused by problems at school, problems with friends, or even depression.
If your teen doesn’t want to tell you what’s going on, you need to stick to your word and take further steps to find out if they’re using drugs. Check your teen’s room and car. If you have a good relationship with their friends, ask them what’s going on. Make your child justify where their money is going. Also, make sure you know where your child is at all times (including checking school attendance records).
Once you have confirmation of your teens drug use, seek outside help. There are literally hundreds of people and organizations ready and willing to help you and your teen. If you don’t know where to start, talk to your child’s doctor, counselor, or minister. They may be willing to speak to your teen directly and recommend organizations and treatment programs to you. You must remember that you are not alone!
If you can’t find any evidence that your child is doing drugs, take them to a pastor or counselor. Let them talk in individual sessions. Your child may not be opening up to you, but at least they will be getting help somewhere.
Drugs can be a terrifying prospect for any parent. Just remember to stay calm and get help. It may be a long road to recovery, but if you stand by your child and source the problem early on you will have a better chance of helping them.
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I have notice a big change in my 16 year old sons behavior. I have found marijana and ectasy in his pants pocket. He denies it. His behavior is getting to be voilent, he yells at me, and i know he will hit me. I am at a lost because i am afraid of him. He doesn’t care about school or getting a job, all he wants to do is hang out with friends.
1Corrie,
Thanks for commenting. Please do seek outside help as soon as possible. There are many people and many organizations that are around to help you and your teen. If you don’t know where to start, talk to your child’s doctor, school counselor, or minister. It is important for you teens health and for your health as well.
Aurelia
2Hey Corri,
It sounds like your son is getting involved in drugs…you have evidence…I’m not sure how he can deny it since you found it…but I can understand your fear. You need to get help NOW. Do NOT let it go any further! That help may involve the police and counseling. I want to encourage you to be strong and confident. You are the parent! Stepping in isn’t easy, but it is necessary. If you feel you are in danger, you need to remove your son from the home until he gets help and stops using drugs. There may be other drugs he is using as well. Seek help and seek it now. I don’t know where you’re located, but many areas have Women’s Resource Centers or similar where you can get help. Don’t hesitate to call the police either. I know it seems harsh, but you have to step in. I will be praying for you and your son!
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