What to do if You Suspect You Teen is Taking Drugs
All parents want to keep their kids safe, but with all the dangers in today’s world that’s getting harder to do. A big concern for many parents is drugs. While it’s best to stop your child from doing drugs before they start, there are things you can do if you suspect a problem.
If you suspect your teen is doing drugs, talk to them. And I mean, just talk; no yelling, screaming, or accusations. Prepare what you’re going to say ahead of time so you don’t say something you didn’t intend to. Tell them you suspect they’re taking drugs and cite your reasoning. Give specific, documented examples of behavioral changes. Explain that you’re just trying to help them, but if they don’t tell you what’s going on with them, you’re going to have to take further steps. But be careful, what you perceive as drug use could just be caused by problems at school, problems with friends, or even depression.
If your teen doesn’t want to tell you what’s going on, you need to stick to your word and take further steps to find out if they’re using drugs. Check your teen’s room and car. If you have a good relationship with their friends, ask them what’s going on. Make your child justify where their money is going. Also, make sure you know where your child is at all times (including checking school attendance records).
Once you have confirmation of your teens drug use, seek outside help. There are literally hundreds of people and organizations ready and willing to help you and your teen. If you don’t know where to start, talk to your child’s doctor, counselor, or minister. They may be willing to speak to your teen directly and recommend organizations and treatment programs to you. You must remember that you are not alone!
If you can’t find any evidence that your child is doing drugs, take them to a pastor or counselor. Let them talk in individual sessions. Your child may not be opening up to you, but at least they will be getting help somewhere.
Drugs can be a terrifying prospect for any parent. Just remember to stay calm and get help. It may be a long road to recovery, but if you stand by your child and source the problem early on you will have a better chance of helping them.
April 29th, 2008 at 6:39 pm
Great advice Tricia! I work at the Partnership for a Drug-Free America. We have created TimeToTalk.org where parents can reach out to other parents to understand this complicated health issue better, to connect with their kids, to learn what actions they can take to help keep their kids healthy. Visit TimeToTalk.org and sign up for our new tips and tools and monthly updates.
April 30th, 2008 at 2:09 pm
Debbie,
Thank you so much for the site. I will be looking into it. And thank you so much for stopping by and checking us out.
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October 23rd, 2008 at 8:47 am
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